Dear Diary Readers,
It’s the week of the popular Valentine day (Febuary 14) even a blind person can see the anticipation in the air. Congratulations to those engaged and married. Sweet single ladies come around let’s have lunch with chilled zobo. Lol😅😂 and like Bisola would say; "We’re doing this together"😂😂😂😅
The elegant lunch look.
I'm sure a lot of our friends have started receiving flowers, teddy bears, romantic messages please help out with the list, I think im getting old☹️🙈. The funniest part is, they would share their joy with you and probably there is this tiny little something ringing in your hearts of hearts whispering and reminding you of how many guys had asked you out the previous months and as a “Disciplined, No nonsense, Classy, Knowing what you want lady” you decline all request (the request sounds like facebook friend request. Lol). ☹️🥺
Don’t be mad with yourself, it’s not late to be your own val and enjoy the life that comes with being single. Ejoor I’m not against getting into a relationship o. My problem is when we don’t get into the right one probably outta what we call pressure or trying to taste the waters.
I'm no relationship councellior or expert but one thing I know girlie, LEARN THE ACT OF LOVING YOURSELF FIRST. Im also not against you rejecting the proposals in quote, my problem is when you start biting yourself or trying to mourn your singleness.
THE ACT OF LEARNING TO LOVING YOURSELF FIRST
Matthew 22: 37-39Jesus said unto them, thou shall love the Lord your God with all your hearts and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shall love your neighbour as thyself.
We usually find it easier to love others than we love and appreciate ourselves. Like I always tell my friends, you are your first encouragement to yourself. So even before the approval of others around, you have your own approval (don’t get me wrong we are not always perfect and we need each other to survive) However loving yourself is what some may consider as high self esteem , self awareness or self crush.
Popular wisdom tells us that healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship-that without sufficient self-love we’re not capable of truly loving others. Self-love, then, may not be as essential to relationships as we sometimes make it out to be. What seems more healthy is Self-acceptance-that is, viewing yourself as a basically good person who is worthy of love, without needing to prove yourself or outshine others. A self-accepting person is less likely to burden a partner with excessive reassurance-seeking or excessive criticism.
Extract from Juiliana Breines.
Before you get all emotional and teary over the anticipated Febuary 14, Remind youself of why you exist in the first place.
You are the most important person in your life
You have passion
You are worth more than other peoples opinion
Nothing is worth your own self destruction
You are beautiful.
You are everything good you can think of.
Finally the true definition of love is listed in 1st Corinthians 13;4-8a
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails
Beautiful, Yeah? Wait till you hold them.
Ooh least I forget, ive started sending in flowers. Hope you love them?
A lovely valentines day to you in advance.
Good Night 🤭🤭
Sleep Tight.
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